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The Counselor/Client Relationship: Why Connection is Key

When asked to describe a healthy relationship, many people answer with words such as “supportive,” “collaborative,” and “encouraging.” There is a lot of truth in these answers, and they can apply to more than just romantic or platonic relationships. In a therapeutic setting, the relationship between a counselor and their client is fundamental to effective practice. While each therapeutic model may differ in its techniques and interventions, they all operate under the belief that the strength and quality of the therapeutic relationship are the most influential indicators of positive change and client growth.

 

What is a Therapeutic Alliance?

A therapeutic alliance is the helping relationship agreed upon between the counselor and the client. The alliance is more than just a contract. It is a collaborative, trusting partnership built on trust, rapport, empathy, and a mutual desire to improve the client’s mental well-being (Bordin, 1979). Therapists have an ethical responsibility to maintain an unconditional positive regard towards their clients. A successful therapeutic alliance bond that allows the client to engage deeply in the therapeutic process and experience meaningful change.

What Happens if There’s a Rupture?

Sometimes the counselor/client relationship can be disrupted, and that is normal! A rupture is often the result of misunderstandings or miscommunication. While it may feel scary when the therapeutic relationship is out of alignment, it can serve as an opportunity for growth and increased insight. How the client reacts when there is a rupture often reflects how they navigate conflict outside the therapeutic space. Navigating and learning from a therapeutic rupture strengthens the therapeutic alliance.

Client Relationship

What This Means for You, the Client

A healthy therapeutic relationship must be maintained by both the counselor and you, the client! But how do you, as a client, support the relationship? There are a few ways. First, ask questions! If something is unclear or if you need extra time to process, simply ask!  Your counselor is there to support you.

Next, remember that it is okay to say that something might not feel right. Exploring new feelings can introduce settings that make you nervous, and that’s okay! Lastly, keep an open mind before, during, and after sessions. It’s important to give the therapeutic relationship enough time to develop and strengthen (Steindl, 2023).

Our Takeaways

At Yellowdoor, each of our counselors has a unique perspective on the therapeutic alliances they build with their clients. We asked them to share their views on these relationships. Owner and LCMHC Ashley states, “I love that the counseling relationship allows for a balance of strict professional boundaries and vulnerability. At its core, therapy is a collaboration. I believe the strongest relationships with clients are built on authenticity and trust.” Next, LCMHC Associate Christine describes a healthy therapeutic alliance as “a unique safe space for nonjudgmental understanding, which encourages emotional growth and self-discovery.” Finally, our Clinical Intern Hannah views the therapeutic relationship as “an intimate and collaborative partnership centered around safety and support.” In conclusion, although our clinicians provided different perspectives, each response emphasizes the significance of a mutually trusting, goal-oriented, and collaborative therapeutic relationship.

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Nicola Kay

LCSW

Hi, I’m Nicola, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I earned my Master’s degree in Social Work with a clinical concentration in the fall of 2020 from Walden University. I work with both teens (16+) and adults, and I’ve had the privilege of supporting individuals through a wide range of challenges including anxiety, depress, trauma, OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder), and life transitions. It is my goal to create a safe and welcoming space where you feel seen, heard, and valued. We will work collaboratively to develop a plan that feels best for you that fosters insight, emotional balance, and lasting, meaningful growth.

I am trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), a powerful, evidence-based approach that helps process trauma and difficult memories. PS-R (Practice Self-Regulation) is another trauma-informed, evidence-based modality I use that empowers individuals to navigate challenges, regulate their emotions, and move toward healthier, more fulfilling futures. I also integrate cognitive therapy, mindfulness, and mind-body awareness with creative approaches to help individuals connect more deeply with themselves.

In my free time, I love to hike or do anything outdoors, crochet for my friends and family, or try a new baking recipe.

When you feel ready, I’d love to hear from you. I’m here to walk this journey with you.

Christine Schwab

LCMHCA

“Hi, I’m Christine, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor Associate. I earned my Master’s degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Syracuse University in the fall of 2023. I work with both adults and children (ages 10+), and I’ve had the opportunity to support clients through a wide range of challenges, including anxiety, depression, ADHD, relationship issues, and life transitions.

I’ve received training in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Play Therapy. While I use elements of these approaches, I primarily work from an eclectic and person-centered framework, meaning I tailor my approach to each client’s unique needs and goals. My priority is to create a space that is safe, accepting, and judgment-free—where you feel seen, supported, and empowered to grow.

I am an LGBTQIA+ and neurodivergent-affirming counselor, and I deeply value the uniqueness and complexity of every individual. I believe in meeting you where you are and walking alongside you as you navigate whatever you’re going through.
When I’m not in the therapy room, I enjoy listening to old music, visiting local coffee shops, going on walks, and spending time with my cat, Mushu.

Whenever you feel ready to start therapy, please reach out and we can come up with a plan together.”

Hannah (HK) Sawyer

Clinical Intern

Hi, I’m Hannah, a second-year Master’s level counseling student currently completing my clinical training. I received my Bachelor’s degree in Social Work from the University of South Carolina, and I’ve been dedicated to helping others navigate life’s challenges ever since.


My background includes a year-long internship with Lexington County DSS, and I’m a Certified Victims Advocate through Pathways to Healing. I’ve worked closely with children and adolescents in foster care and the juvenile justice system, and while I specialize in working with younger clients, I also welcome the opportunity to support adults.


In therapy, I use a variety of approaches to meet each person’s unique needs. These include Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and play therapy. My goal is always to create a safe, supportive environment where you feel comfortable exploring what’s going on and working toward meaningful growth.
In my free time, I love going to concerts, discovering new music, and getting lost in a good book.


Starting therapy can feel like a big step, but you don’t have to do it alone. I’m here to walk with you, and I’d be honored to be part of your journey.

Ashley Rifenburg

LCMHC

Hi, I’m Ashley, a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor. In 2021 I earned my Master’s degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. I opened Yellow Door Counseling in 2024.

My goal is to create a space where you feel safe, comfortable, and truly heard. I believe therapy should be a place where you can show up exactly as you are, without judgment. Whether you’re navigating anxiety, depression, trauma, or simply feeling stuck, you don’t have to go through it alone.

I work primarily with teens (ages 10+) and adults, and I’ve had the privilege of supporting clients through many different life experiences. I’m trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), a powerful, evidence-based approach that helps process trauma and difficult memories. I also incorporate cognitive and person-centered techniques, and I love bringing creativity into our work through art, music, and mindfulness practices when it fits your goals.

No two people are the same, and I’ll collaborate with you to create a personalized plan that feels right for you.

When I’m not in session, you can usually find me reading a good book, trying out new restaurants, or cuddling my sweet French bulldog, Lucy.

If you’re thinking about starting therapy, I’d love to hear from you. You deserve support, and I’m here when you’re ready.